When do we wake up?

Azaan controversy of Sonu Nigam attracted a lot of criticism from people about how he should have been more considerate while speaking his point; about how he sounded rude, how it was a religious attack.

He was annoyed of waking up early due to the loud sound.

Some people blame the government for everything. They want a bill for defining the decibels.

My question is,

Why can't we be responsible ourselves and stop polluting the environment in any form? Why do we need a rule to tame us from doing something wrong? I mean even if it is legal/illegal, we know it's bothersome. The recent event of a spiritual leader spoilt our rivers for decades. The blame was put on the officials who passed the order to carry out the event. But, in any social events we organize, isn't it our responsibility to make sure, anybody/environment is not harmed in any way? On new year event in Bengaluru, wasn't it the responsibility of the people who were part of the event, to stop girls being molested instead of waiting for police to do their jobs?

Why do we turn a blind eye towards our ethical responsibility? We do not empathize the sick, the poor or the weak. We do not care about the trees, the birds, the beauty. Why ?

We are humans. We are blessed with a brain which can create miracles and if used properly, we can live in harmony without harming the environment. But, we never think about anyone else. We do not think about the impact of our actions. The effect that it creates. Take an instance, of the loud horns of certain vehicles. There have been instances where you feel defeaning if a horn is honked. But, unless he/she is legally obliged to follow any rule regarding the decibels of horns, unless generating a fear of getting jailed/fined for the act, he/she will never learn. We are so unapologetic and selfish about everything that we need the legal systems to make us realize that somethings are wrong and unacceptable.

Do we ever need to teach people like dhoni/sachin/rahul dravid to play a fair play or not to do something which can ever be bothersome to others? No. They are intelligent and responsible citizens who probably take more care about the people and environment around them. Why don't we idealize people like that? Why don't we see the good and be influenced by it instead of just blindly following, even copying, what we find cool?

When are we going to start thinking about the implications we have as a human and prove that that's makes us human; rather than saying mistakes make us human.


Why?

When do wake up in the actual sense and think about our actions?

Keep thinking.

What's a Half Girlfriend?

More and more relationships these days have "it's complicated" status. These complexities can be many: one sided love, not so sure, lack of trust, lack of commitment and yes, the friendzoned ones.

These relationships have strong friendships. And when it's between a boy and a girl; Strong friendships sometimes, become more. 

We are friends for a longtime and we know, understand each other very well. We are comfortable with each other. So much so, that we share the deepest secrets and experiences and aren't ashamed of being judged.

The bond is strong and there is respect; we know we won't hurt the other person by saying anything mean.

The basic foundation of a romantic relationship is in place, which is, according to me: trust, respect, love, conversation. 

Also, in some friendships, at some point in time, he/she may confess having a crush on the other. So, the one who has a crush, is generally very sweet and gives the compliments and what we call "bhaav" in our desi way!

Then, the relationship becomes little flirty and sweet. Some relationships also have "friends with benefits" tag, which leads to more closeness, because the trust factor is too strong.

But, more than physical attraction, half girlfriend is the one, whom he loves and probably, she loves him too, you know, in a way you can't define.

There's​ a point in a friendship between a guy and a girl when they feel more than just friends. 

It's​ because you may have some enjoyable conversations, the hugs and the xoxo, the way you feel when you talk to the person and the responses you get, attraction, caring and such.

Basically, you feel there's something more to it than plain friendship. But then, it's up to the both of you, how you take it forward. It could turn into a relationship or it may just stay at that point.

When the boyfriend/girlfriend tag comes, we fear of the fights and fulfilling expectations.

At this stage, we get the best of both worlds i.e. friendship and no unnecessary expectations.
That's why, probably, we may have that comfort in a relationship called "Half Girlfriend". 

Neither of them is compelled to do things.

But, both of them, do sweet gestures and help each other when in need.

All relationships need not culminate with marriage or an affair. Some relationships are special in their own way!

Keep thinking!

Do let me know your thoughts in the comments section.

I am sharing a Half relationship story at BlogAdda in association with #HalfGirlfriend

Who live without Love - Part 2

Continued from Part 1

http://thinkinganagha.blogspot.in/2017/02/who-live-without-love-part-1.html?m=1

Now, there are also, some who are able to express!

Is that enough?

What about proving it ?


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Oh... We live in a selfish world. There is nothing called as love. Everything is a business.

Everything is about profitability. So, why bother?

Why get hurt?

Why go through the turmoil, when we can just fake it?

Why not stick to 'white lies'?

Because, people never change.

And we cannot change anyone..

So, we don't even 'try'!!!


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So, that just basically means 'We are losers'.


We have accepted defeat even before entering the race.

Oh... I am a pain in the a**


Why do we even have to talk about it?

Ohh...  So, when your conscience got a little turmoil.. you just shun it away?

Why? Because, we refuse to accept it.

We are too weak. Too vulnerable.

We are.. not loved enough. To actually love someone else.

So, we continue in the conquest of life, where there is no satisfaction. . . .

And so, I pity thy Life.


We fail in knowing how to love, be loved truely, deeply, unconditionally.




So, how can we succeed?


Just Love. Everyone knows it naturally. Bring it out. Be more honest to yourself. Stop shunning your conscience for once.

Face it. And if you fail at it. What's to lose, really?

I know what, The Ego. Well, that's good if it goes...


Being real and true to self harmed nobody.


   Keep thinking!

Who live without Love - Part 1

Dumbledore's statement strikes a chord.

He is absolutely right in his statement. For people, who live without love, I feel pity.


Love. That feeling, that emotion.

There are married couples, with children who say that they may not exactly love each other.

There are children who do not entirely love their parents.

There are even parents who do not love their children so much.


It's a pity. Really!



It's not a false relationship. But, some kind of 'by the way' or an obligatory relationship.

How can that happen?

When, even with friends, we experience that love and warmth. Oh, don't get started on "friendzOned stuff".


Well, we may not love everybody we speak to but,there's got to be a person or even a pet whom we love with all our heart.



And yes, I also pity those who may have it but fail to be able to express it.


What happened?

Why are we afraid to say 'I love you'?

To give a warm hug or just that loving look?

Why do we keep so aloof and pretend to be robots without feelings?


And, most importantly, why the heck, we start judging our own selves about how stupid we will look if we did all that?

Does showing love really affect your self-image?

Seriously, dude? Get a real mirror.

Open your eyes as to where are we going.

And some of them, even get ashamed by it.. like the show in the movies. A child asking his mother to stop kissing in public.


Sometimes, we become so involved into smaller things that we forget to see the clear picture. Like, living in a pixel of an image.

We need to come above it. And see, reflect, what's more important to us?

Keep thinking!

Continued in part 2

http://thinkinganagha.blogspot.in/2017/02/who-live-without-love-part-2.html?m=1

Molestation

Molestation 

Sexual abuse

Sadly, these words exist in our world.

Be it a city, a village, a developed country or an undeveloped one.

Be it in a train, bus, stage shows or inside our own homes.

Sometimes, we don't know how to even react to it?

It may be very subtle like a shopkeeper brushes his fingers off your breasts while merely trying to show you the top or a tailor brushing off his forehand while measuring your size.

It could be the people taking advantage of the mob. While taking the staircase of a really crowded station, trying to grab, grope or brush elbows and blaming it on the huge push coming on. Sometimes, it's a real reason, sometimes, it's a chance they take.

Perverts.

I am not going to describe more hideous things.

But as we grow up, we learn to ignore the constant stares and the noticeable touch, which they pretend as if it never happened.

That feeling.. such an irky feeling.. 

It feels dirty.

I don't understand what people get by slight or evident touching someone else against their will? 

How can humans be evil like that?

Troubling and seeking pleasure over someone else's irritation?

Harassing someone.

What kind of mindset these people have? And why?

Why does this happen all over the world?

It's so common. It's Shameful.

Why education, prosperity or even success hasn't been able to overcome such evil mentality?

Why does the bad prevail everywhere?

I am writing this because I feel heartbroken when I see this happening in every society regardless of religion, nationalism, gender, or any other divide.

It happens to men, women, transgender, gay, children, adults, old people and guess what? Even the dead.

This pure lust and no love or intamacy. No mercy.

No conscience. Where does this come from?

These people are all around us.

They just sprang up when they get that opportunity. Until then, they can be sophisticated or your everyday common man. You may never know or be able to read over their masks.

Why is this so prevalent?

Why are we not able to do anything about it in so many years?

Why are we ignoring it and turning a deaf ear to these incidents?

Don't we love and respect each other as humans first? 

Why the good in us stays hidden and we don't take a stand for others and raise voice for them without having an alter motive?

Why don't we, the good people, spread the goodness wide, to overcome this menace?

It is us, who are suffering.

I do agree it's just our bodies. No one can touch our souls. 

"You don't have soul. You are a soul. You have a body."

It's upto us how much we let it affect us. 

But, that doesn't take it away that molestation is bad. 

We learn to move on, like we do when probably we get hurt by a stone or a cut that heals.

Scars remain and fade away.

Sometimes, we try to hit back or fight it.

Shout at the person. Yell. Swear. Become mad. Cry.

We just got to deal with it. Somehow.

Keep Thinking.

What are your thoughts? Tell me.

Confusion... What do we really want..

When the question is about our dislikes, it's so easy to point out things we don't like. No confusion. We are so sure about it. There is no ounce of doubt, that we may ever like it.

Why? How?

Because We know ourselves.

We know what we want.

Ya. We do. Don't we? Do we, really? Are we sure?

I mean it's so easy to tell I like a lot of things.. rain..colors.. stars.. rivers.. conversations.. my friends.. my family.. see..

I know what I like.

I like red.. but ya, white is the best.

Then, why is it at times when we know that we like a lot of things.. but we still aren't sure of whether we absolutely love it.

That, we are completely sure we want it.

Why is that we run into confusion of actually having it or not.

Unmm... Maybe I am not crazy about it.

So, it isn't for me.

I like it. I love it. I feel good about it.

Yet, I am not sure.

Why so much confusion?

Because, you know they say, when you want it you know it. Your heart knows it. It calls out to you to go grab it.

Now really?

Does that happen ?

Will that actually happen to us?

Or, is it just some theory everyone believes in.

Will the heart know it or do we manipulate it to believe it?

Hehe.. did you think I had the answers to all these questions?

Nope.

Unsurity... Fear.. confusion.. reluctance.. 

It's like the time you are all geared up for that adventure ride you always wanted to take and right at the point it's actually going to happen.. you think do I really want this?

We all fear the unknown.

Or fear to get bored like we probably got bored of the bicycle we always wanted badly.

The fear that we will outgrow it.

Because, We keep evolving and like different things at different points in life.

We aren't really sure to commit to it forever.

And, we aren't sure about what do we want exactly?

Even though, we are getting it, we may feel, we are losing out on the best or settling for less.

We forget to see and appreciate it whole heartedly with our closed minds.

Confusion creates more confusion.

Sometimes. Maybe to open our minds, we should close our eyes. Think and feel what we really want. Try tossing the coin and guessing which side we want it to turn in. 

Keep thinking!

Sweet coincidences

Sweet coinicidences....

Those little moments when you think about something and it actually happens....


It could be you trying to remember a song and that song starts playing..

Or, when you discuss about your day with a friend and you realize you both spent your day watching the same movie on TV

Or, while having conversations both of you blurting out the exact thing.


Coincidences like these are so wonderful.

They make us delightful and sometimes even strengthen our relationships.

When before you even dial in, you receive a call from the same person or before even typing receive a message, right after you thought about it.


Random things cheer us up! 😊


These moments although really small add perks of fun!!

Especially, the ones which happen immediately.. it feels like the other person could hear you or you just possess some power to make things happen!!

We just call it a sweet coinicidence!!!



Keep thinking!! 😊😊😊

It's the thought that counts!

Well, there have been instances all my life with my loved ones.. My family.. My friends..

When someone you want to get back to but cannot because of other stuff happening.
It's the thought that counts!

When you wish like you could do more for someone. Give more time. Be there. Be present. Yet, for some reasons you cannot be. Be it work. Your own mood.

Sometimes you are  there. Sometimes you cannot be. Sometimes, you just want to be with yourself.

Thinking about someone else apart from yourself is a start.

Sometimes, this thought itself matters more than anything for the other person.

Be it a friend, family, crush or spouse.

Knowing that someone does care, in this mean world. In this world, where people are selfish, mean and always trying to take advantage of you. When in this world, you realize someone does care it's just a matter of time and restrictions. In this world, where we are all running, toiling all day,prioritizing tasks, daily chores, exhausted. We do not have time for ourselves, our families, forget others.

So when someone is kind and gives a thought about you. Cherish it.

That's where true happiness lies, isn't it?

It's the thought that counts after all!

Keep thinking! Cheers!

HUM TUM

HUM TUM.. my favorite movie! I have seen it 90 times and counting...

Well, that sure sounds crazy. But, HUM TUM does not fail to bring a smile to my face, each and every time I watch it.

What's not to like? 

1. The quintessential girl-boy fights...

HUM TUM presents these girl-boy fights since the start. Describing how men and women really are and their perceptions of each other. It's funny. Even when the joke's on us, girls. Sometimes, you just can't help but agree. And, smile :-)

I am all on with the Individualism and that's why I always feel we cannot judge anyone by the gender.

In this movie, you just take it with a bit of sense of humor because some things are what they are.

2. Cartoons

Hell.. Yeah.. I.. We.. miss the original 2D cartoons a lot. Reading comic strips once in a while.

HUM TUM brings in that nostalgic feeling by adding those 2 cartoon characters in between scenes. 

The playful background music, cartoon voice-overs are so very sweet and just the fun of watching cartoons and laughing your heart out :-D

3. Meeting again and again

The whole concept of falling in love is just so different. You keep meeting the person again and again until you realize that it's the one. We have always seen movies where a boy and girl meet and fall in love in an instant which although may seem romantic, isn't always practical. Hence, this concept really interests me: becoming friends first, knowing each other, and realizing your love. 

4. Dialogues

The dialogues are apt. From the thoughts going on in saif's mind, to simple discussions between the characters, some soulful, some funny. Without them this movie would not have been what it is.

"kya jhooth bolte ho?"

"Ding Dong."

"Kya main use shaadi ke baad ye keh sakta hoon ki hamari shaadi ho gayi hain?"

"Australia sala.. game mein bhi acchhi fielding karta hai!"

"Ab ye lady Diana kaun hai?"

"No Byes Riya!  Kyunki, ye zindagi bahot lambi hai and hamare paas waqt bahot kam hai."

5. Background score 

What keeps me engaged in the movie ,is really the background score of the movie. I really enjoy it when there is good music, beats and tunes  to help audiences connect. In HUM TUM, there are loads of such small tunes, beats which make you laugh, cry, fall in love. Even the one, when she hits him that tone uh..aah..eeh.. aah.. It's so funny. Also, U N I song by Veronica and Rishi rich is played in bits and pieces throughout the movie and entire song at the end and start of the movie. It definitely adds a modern flavor to the movie.

6. Actors-Characters

Obviously! All the actors in the movie have played their part really well. 

All credits to Kunal Kohli and team on the choice of actors. They all are just so adorable.

Saif Ali Khan: Karan grows in the movie from a college boy to a man who refuses to grow up and then a matured friend. His whole journey has been depicted brilliantly. Saif, received a National Award for the movie. Very well deserved!

Rani Mukerji: In the start, Rani's character Rhea comes across slightly irritated and not as cool as Karan's. She is smart, independent, no-nonsense girl. Yet, she is willing to try new things and gets her ideal man. 

Kirron Kher: She plays the Punjabi traditional mum to Rhea who always stands by her kid.

Rishi Kapoor: The failed Dad and husband who probably is the reason of Karan's outlook on life.

Rati Agnihotri: Karan's mother. Business woman. Independent mother. Beautiful.

Jimmy Shergill: He is a fresh addition to the story. An ideal match and a good friend. 

And other appearances by Shenaz Treasurywala, Abhishek Bachchan and Isha Koppikar are also worth a mention.

7. Scenes

Each and every scene is well written and well executed and also more importantly, all scenes are well connected to one another to keep with the flow of the story.

•  ARRANGE MARRIAGE SCENE

My favorite scene is the Arrange Marriage trial scene which comes in the later part of the movie.

The scene starts with Karan landing up at Rhea's house at 2 a.m. unannounced and then the two of them chatting it up. When Karan is trying to convince Rhea about giving life a second chance by going the Arrange Marriage way. Pretending to be strangers, they enact how would it be and end up having a cozy moment together. 

"Bachche aur Tommy baadme. Main sabse jyada aur hamesha sirf tumse pyar karunga!"

• PLANE SCENE

Also, initially, the plane scene of Karan figuring out ways to speak to Rhea. It's interesting to see a guy, thinking so many things before talking to a girl.  Getting to know what really goes on in a guy's mind!

• FIGHT SCENE

And that fight scene, when they finally come face to face with each other. One on one Battle. There is mirror breaking, Rhea crying, lots of drama. Bringing out things in open finally, to face the reality. 

"Kya tum mujh jaise ladke ke sath khush reh sakti ho Rhea?"

There is so much in that. So many emotions going on in between and inside both the characters.

•  Karan tries to make talk

Not many dialogues in this one. Awkward. But the sheer hardwork of Karan trying to cheer Rhea up. Not knowing what to say but being there. 

HUM TUM. It makes you laugh a lot.. fall in love.. shows friendship.. and teaches the basic lesson of being a grown up.

"Karan, unhe hamari kam and hame unki jarurat jyada hai. Ye tum ab nahi samjhoge. Jab tumhe tumhari Rhea milegi tab samjhoge. Wo humse yaha kitni bhi kamjor kyu na ho par yahan..<3"

And that is why, when I am a little low or bored or just in the mood for some fun, I watch this movie. I saw it in theatre, on DVD, on TV. 

It will always be  close to my heart and never bore me. 

Keep Smiling! Keep Thinking!

7 things My future Knight in Shining Armour should know

Ladies, we all have that image of a man who would be the one and only!  Even if, we have had a bad relationship, even if, things haven't worked out, keep dreaming. If you have already found one, Hold on to him.

BlogAdda asks me about the promises my man should make me on this Women's day.

Let me picture someone, so that my imagination gets flowing.

                                My future knight in shining armour! Someone like, McDreamy!

If you are reading this, here it is.

Promises are meant to be broken, they say. So, I may not want  you to really promise me or say things out loud.  But, there are things I would want you to promise yourself or feel these things for me and you...

1.  Looking into my eyes

Please, please, look into my eyes when you say something romantic or something important or just look into my eyes like that. ;-)

2. Propose

Well, we always have discussions and arguments over who should propose? or Is proposal even necessary? I am a hopeless romantic and if you are serious, please propose.

"I love you, April. I always have. I love everything about you. Even the things I don't like, I love.  And I want you with me. I love you, and I think that you love me too. Do you?"

3. Smile

I just love your smile.. Really! So, smile.. Sometimes, blush too!

 McDreamy, your smile makes me go weak in the knees. And those blushy eyes! Umm..

4.  Accept mistakes

Mistakes do happen, and it wouldn't hurt, if you would accept them.  Just don't repeat them. Yes, it applies to me too.

"I'm a human being. I make mistakes. I'm flawed, we all are."

5. Say it

There may be times when you need to say it out loud. Even if it is obvious, even if I should understand, even if there isn't any need, Just say it. Hearing, I love you, isn't going to get old, ever.

"If you love someone you tell them. Even if you're scared that it's not the right thing. Even if you're scared it'll cause problems. Even, if you're scared that it will burn your life to the ground. You say it. You say it loud."


6. Make it work

For a strong relationship, we both have to work hard. It is not going to be easy. But we do not give up. We will make it work.

"There comes a point where it all becomes too much. When we get too tired to fight anymore. So we give up. That's when the real work begins."


7. True Love

that's asking for, a bit too much, ain't I?

"I love you, and I'm not going to stop loving you. Meredith, I can't live without you."



Keep Thinking! Keep Dreaming! McDreamy is on the way!

I’m blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women’s Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda in association with Set Wet. Wishing all women a Happy Women's Day!

Here's Ranveer Singh making us the Ultimate Wish girls!