Romance

Romance..

This word itself, lights one up.

Lucky are the ones who get to experience that!

I am not an envious person in daily life, although, when I see a romantic gesture by some sweet guy for his girl, I feel a little bit of ' l want that!'.

Now, what's really romance ?

I am sure each individual will have their own definition. Be it the cliché  of candlelight dinner or the philosophical cooking and cleaning together.. Romance can be different for different people.

Some people say it with their eyes or gestures and some by their expressions and conversations.

I don't know why men or women sidetrack their romance.. It is as essential for a relationship as communication is.

Romance may have different meanings for different people but, just the thought of it, is amazing!

For all the lovely couples out there.. Don't let that romance go away from your lives!

Be it those sweet nothings, filmy dialogues, Little white lies or appreciatory notes..

Whatever it is which you like or your style is..

Keep that romance alive.

Say a little compliment to your partner or just pull their cheeks or kiss them on forehead once a while..

Take them for a drive or picnic or a surprise getaway.. Roses.. Lilies.. Reading a novel together or watching that new show on TLC..
Cycling together.. Or simply walking, hand in hand.. Feeling how lucky is to have that special person!

Showing love is really important.. Not always, will the idea of 'reading the eyes' work.

Don't take things for granted..

Enjoy it until it lasts.. Hope it lasts forever!

Keep thinking..!!

Small things.. Mood breakers - makers!

When we get upset on something or someone.. Be it bad news or things we didn't expect, happen.. These are the times when we go in the ' upset zone '. Nothing seems to rejoice us. No one seems to care. We need some kind words to cheer us up. But no one around, so close, to share, or whose words will have that effect.

We may overcome the biggest of shocks and bad news easily, but those small things.. Criticism or some other thing someone did, may affect us.

At that time, its not really others who can be of real help. Discussing it does lower the pain. At the end of it, it's our own mind whom we need to teach to overcome it. Forget that and move on. We know we will. Time is the best medicine and after a point that thing is irrelevant.
Yet, for those brief moments, maybe a single day, we have that thing bothering us at the back of our mind, spoiling our mood.

We try to gulp it in and make ourselves understand. Give a little pep talk or discuss with someone, just to get over it. How do some irrelevant things, which may not even matter to us, fill up our mind and get all the unnecessary attention?

How much ever we avoid, these things happen to one and all. Small things, take that smile down.. :( so small things, can also be the ones which can bring it back up :)

Be it listening to your favorite song, doing something what you like, a sweet compliment or just sleeping over it, makes us forget that little tiny thing which bothered us all day and we feel back to being me.

Funny! How some things become so important, for that frame of time.

Small things become large and doing other joyful small things make them tiny.

They may not go away completely. We learn our own way of dealing them, day to day.

Keep thinking :)

Our mind's turmoil!

There are many times, when we feel things aren't going the way we want them to, we may self doubt ourselves or even start thinking, whether that's what is t for us.. whether we should just accept it.

We know, that, there is nothing in our hands and what has to happen will happen anyway. But  this feeling of helplessness and no control on our own life, makes us restless.

We keep going, work hard and try to the best of our abilities to make things happen, the way we would like. This feeling... doesn't leave us though. We keep wondering, how situations will turn or what we can do more to get it.

Sometimes, we just can't guess the answers. We fear the unfortunate and hope for the best. We may feel confused, hopeful, sad, happy, try to judge every situation as to whether it will lead to what we want or to the part, we don't even want to think about.

We may experience positive instances, sometimes, and be cheerfu,l while sometimes, be mystified and feel clueless. What has to happen will happen!
Yet, this turmoil of feelings, anxiety and excitement fills us up!

We don't know, if we should be optimistic or practical. We prepare ourselves for the worst, have a plan B and keep hoping for the best.

What has to happen will happen anyway!

All these thoughts, anxiety, excitement may seem worthless. Time...will give us answers.
Impatience.. Catches us.

All these thoughts, feelings although won't matter when the time comes..the result will decide how we will deal with the situation..

Yet, somehow these things what we feel are part of us. These... make us the 'person' we are.

What we care for, what we are passionate about, those things are going to be in our minds and we just can't help it.

So we shouldn't stop that. Just remember, believing in self, is what matters!

The result, whatever it turns out, we will accept and work our way with it. Dealing with the outcome will teach us many things, whether the result is positive or not.

We keep learning, keep believing and keep thinking!!

Dance Plus and Remo

It's Sunday again... me and mum spend the day watching Dance plus repeat episodes.

Dance plus, is really an amazing show with a format of teams and points. Semi final and showdown rounds in every show. We have the familiar faces: Raghav, shakti, dharmesh and remo. There is another mentor Sumit.. His work is very impressive.

 There is no distinction of group, solo or duet and all perform to what they do best. Innovating their own style every time.

Remo D'souza: Pioneer of this show. I think he is a very genuine person. We saw him in DID and then he went on to direct ABCD and ABCD2. He judged Jhalak dikhlaja too, for some period and now he came up with this show with an amazing concept and atmosphere. We feel the positivity, while watching it. He encourages the participants. We have seen him work with the participants of DID. In ABCD there was salman, dharmesh, Raghav, jack, prince and so many others he has always supported and pushed. I see him living his dream.. The passion he has for dance and the importance he has bought to the table by his talent. He never lets things go out of hand or unfair. Sometimes, he even balances the score by giving an extra point, if he feels there is a less point from the mentor's side. There are times, when he takes those correct decisions when some contestant faces an injury or judgement on the toughest rounds, even when the same team is winning again. Justice prevails.

Competition with sportsmanship! Teams encouraging one another. Even other team mentors praising the competitor's contestant with what they deserve. Expressing your feelings in such a platform is very important and also is, expressing them right. All the judges do a splendid job, in the comments they give.

I used to watch Masterchef Australia and feel pleased, by the manner in which the judges and contestants encouraged the competition, in a healthy way. Keeping the passion alongwith innovation, every time. That thing, I see in this show too.

It's a show in which we see dance as a talent  with so much perfection and innovation. Opportunities to so many people who rightfully deserve it. Creativity at its best and the thirst for perfection. Some awesome performances may not get a perfect score, being true to judgement.

There is also creativity in which they promote their sponsors, amalgamation in the comments or in the cute cartoon characters they created for each contestant. It's so subtle. I applaud the creative team, for, they do a wonderful job.

Sometimes, Raghav just can't help himself but to dance. And it's breathtaking... Like it always has been. His work in DID juniors was also amazing,as a mentor himself. He is a full package with gags and his moves.

Overall an amazing show, the similar novelty I felt when DID started a few years back. It's so nice to see we humans encouraging each other and appreciation and entertainment. Their zeal to excel gives us 'awestruck' performances which we relish lying in our comfortable homes.

It's a good combination of entertainment, living the dreams; be it for remo, judges,participants, and opportunity to the well deserved. Kudos to the whole team of the show!

Keep thinking!

Reading Novels..

Novels..

I have been reading novels since a longtime now, and pretty often since past few weeks.

While travelling or during leisure time, it feels so good, to just tuck my head in and drift to another world.

I wanted to get rid of the touch screen phone and get hold of a book with actual pages. The touch of the pages, turning them and the smell of old/new book pages is just amazing!

I read a thriller,a bestseller and mills & boon books.. when the story unfolds.. the suspense of what happens next.. figuring out how the story unwinds.. living the lives of characters.

A book can make you feel the exact emotions and exhaust you with it too!

Some books may have everything from a protagonist point of view. While others, may show the point of view and background of all characters.

The way authors write and think.. Fiction.. as Reality.. is just breathtaking..!

Some or the other way we connect with the characters.. or try to compare.. Are we in some way or other, like that?

Reading novels lets you disconnect and connect to another world of imagination, emotions, characters.. It's like reading a dream.

Things they teach us.. and hope they generate!

The best part is connection.

The feelings we feel along with the characters. We empathise to them, sometimes feel pity or sad.
That feeling of feeling for fictional people, which the author brings, with his/her words goes to show us the strength of words. How, we, as human beings, can connect to the thoughts of strangers..!

Novels also become our mood lifters.. sometimes even diversions to our everyday worries.

It feels so fulfilling after we finish the book. I wonder how I didn't touch one for so many months!

Sometimes, the endings make us feel unsaturated, leave us with unanswered questions, later, we forget about it, just go to the next book. That's how life sometimes is, we may not get all the answers, but we keep writing and unfolding new chapters.

Keep Thinking!

Clothes...

Clothes.. Shopping.. Trends.. Fashion..

There was an instance in PK.. When he talks about how he finds it weird people wearing clothes and the definitions of male and female dresses.

Many men complain about the limited trends they have compared to women.. But also hesitate to try something new.

Stereotypes... Have always influenced our culture and society.

We can't imagine a guy wearing skirt but we have seen historic images of skirt type dresses for men and it's all normal in few European countries.

Pink.. Another stereotype.. Highly associated with girls was actually color for men and blue was for women as we have seen Cinderella wore a blue dress and not pink.

Clothes.. Not only they cover us up but also define our personality.

Sab mohmaya hai!!

But we be it men or women want to have lots of them.

I personally like to wear all kinds of dresses.. Sarees, chudidar, Kurtis, shorts, tops, trousers, shirts, 1 piece.. Just everything.

But while buying something there are two things.. 1st it should suit me and second, I  should feel myself. It should be a reflection of me. My various shades.

Well, also the value for cost!!

When we try something, we instantly know whether its for us or not. We feel happy and beautiful in it.  We think about its comfort and the occasions and places we could wear it.  With what top or bottom or accessory we will team it up. So many things we already think without realizing it.

There are people who over think it and take so much time to shop and even after buying it,  they may not be fully satisfied about it.

Many a times it does happen, we buy something which we like at that time but later don't even wear it more than once. When someone criticizes the piece of clothing, we throw it away from our eyes.

Clothes...

They do not define us.

It's we who define them and make them look better otherwise it is just a piece of cloth until, we wear it.

Feel good and comfortable in what you like to wear no matter what others say, it is you who is beautiful inside.

Keep thinking!!

Fitness and Milind soman :*

Why I Run http://www.huffingtonpost.in/milind-soman/why-i-run_4_b_7869546.html

Milind soman who did a triathlon, many congratulations to you on this achievement!

Milind soman.. I love him. Adore him. My crush.. My McDreamy!!

I have always adored him since childhood. Of course, his looks... Oh so.. Charming.. Hot.. His face.. Body.. His voice.. The way he speaks!!!

I may not have seen all his movies. But 16 December and Rules pyar ka superhit formula are the two movies which I watch every time when they are running on TV just for him. To see him.. To hear his voice..

Watching him run in NDTV greenathon and Mumbai Marathon on TV.. Made me admire him even more.

In his blog, he talks about how liberating fitness is for him and I am glad he feels swimming, running and cycling are his ways to fitness rather then just the gym and building bulky bodies as the trend goes!

He also talks about how he does not like to be told things to do and rather feel on your own, be inspired and attracted to the right things on your own rather than being told.

Also the mental physical and spiritual balance which sports bring in our lives.

Cycling.. As I love it.. Always liberates me so I get it when he says what he means by liberating.

Its the open air... Motion.. Moving forward.. Which really frees you.. As if you are going ahead leaving all the things which hold you down...

That feeling of being on your own and carrying yourself... Being independent.. Sweating it out. Not polluting the air...  Its just amazing!

Fitness.. Be it by anyway.. Brings you closer to your own self. Knowing your own body and mind. Walk.. Run.. Swim.. Cycle.. Or yoga.. Don't pollute environment.

Keep thinking!! Keep fit.. Body, mind and soul. :)

Spending Me time!!

This whole week has been really busy and exhausting for me. Working on logic, meeting the deadlines, working continuously. Only at weekend, I got the Me.. Time.

Its Saturday..
Now what to do? Had been planning to go shopping for so long. Finally, got the time. So went shopping. Some trousers and shirts and tops! Then had some fulfilling kebabs...

Now that I had traveled so far.. Had to see the beach.

Watching the waves, cloudy sky, sitting on the stones, peace, calm! Felt really good!!!!

Traveled all the way back.. Too tired.. Gulped the food and fell asleep.

Sunday... Everything slow.. Lying on the bed even after waking up.. Breakfast.. Tv.. And then some personal grooming... Lunch.. Nap.. Movie.. Just relaxing!

Just being with self and not thinking also can be soothing!! So much fun...

I just love myself and need some pampering from me. :):):) that's really important for me. everyone.

Having that me.. Time..

Away from social media. Just zoning out sometimes. Be it reading a novel or shopping or just relaxing or maybe even doing chores or playing games.
Being with the best company.. You.
Feeling your own!
When we just keep running all week forgetting ourselves. We need that pamper..a hot shower.. to Stop running. And just be. Rejuvenate.

There will be another week of working long hours, doing what you always wanted to, taking those steps to where you want to go, being professional, making things happen and sometimes just belief!

Just go on and do that. But don't forget to spend those little moments, doing those things you like to do to show your love to self!

Keep thinking!

Watching T.V.

TV... Television.. Idiot box.. Or whatever you may call it. We watched daily while growing up and even now whenever we get a chance. It's our way of looking at the world. Different point of views, different shows, different people.. Diversity.

With the advent of social media and YouTube.. We may have decreased our watching but everyone loves to watch it lying on the bed or while eating food or just after a tiring day.

Be it enjoying world cup matches, Wimbledon, those fake reality shows, competitions, award shows, chat shows, movies, songs, series, programmes or dreaded serials.. We can watch them singly or with family.

It doesn't make us feel lonely. It makes us fight with siblings or other members for remote. Remote control is really an important invention alongwith TV. It made us lazy but also a multitasker.

It also gives us reasons for conversations.

Be it about the recent new show, scenes, Songs, our favorite Participants or movie stars. From the clothes they wear, to how they made us laugh, some shows teaching us how to survive, how things are made, some funny videos, brain games, promos, news, travel shows, food shows, fashion shows. So many things to watch!

The whole world at our fingertips!! And yet, sometimes its like there is nothing interesting to watch!

It's not really an addiction. We know we can live without TV. But the question is why would you want to?

If we don't like something which is shown.. We can easily choose not to watch it by switching the channel. Its really in our own hands.. Actually thumb. :)

We can watch educational shows and even entertaining ones. We can learn new things and explore them. It's a medium through which we come to know how each individual is different yet they come together to present us something with  such enthusiasm!

Be it dance shows or singing.. They not only entertain us but also make us want to dance and sing. And the TV series keep us engrossed in stories everyday as to what will happen next. And there are few which make me laugh so loudly!

Also, we get to watch loads of movies action, romance, comedy, thrillers and the mixtures of Hollywood Bollywood, regional and others.

We not only enjoy music  of many genres but also across borders. I listen to sonu nigam, atif aslam and akon too. 

I have enjoyed sarabhai vs sarabhai, shriyut gangadhar tipre and even small wonder and friends with the same ease.

Disney channel india exposed us to so many fantastic shows like Lizzie McGuire, wizards of waverly place, that's so raven, Zack and Cody.

It really made my teenage years awesome!

Also, star one got us glued with Remix, Siddhanth,  special squad, instant khichdi, miley jab him tum and the epic sarabhai vs sarabhai.

And we keep wishing for more shows like these.

The reality shows.... Indian idol, dance India dance, jhalak dikhlaja, roadies, splitsvilla, sa re ga ma, so do you can dance, America's next top model, top chef, master chef india , Australia and USA and so many others.

TV shows...  friends, how I met your mother, grey's anatomy, house m.d.,two and a half men, two broke girls, the big bang theory and many others.

I may have not got the chance to enjoy these shows without TV. 

There is you tube but a bigger screen and surround sound and the easy of just switching on!

Vasudhaiva kutumbakam. The whole world is one big family. TV signifies it..!

Online streaming Videos technology has improved a lot. It may even take over television some day. Many people who keep travelling will prefer that too. But this medium which gave us a total exposure, almost a leap. Visual and audio medium. From the black n white to color to HD. From the big boxes to LCD and LEDs. It has evolved and so is the content on it. It also shows how we have grown and changed and evolved as people.

It makes people famous!

There is so much content on it!! We just can't get enough of it.

It takes us in the world of its own. Away from all the worries and stress. It teaches us so many things. Develops our mind in many ways.

Too much of anything is bad. So can be TV.

Ignoring conversations for TV ain't a good thing.

And even not using our brains and just becoming an idiot without doing anything could interest us but is harmful. We could miss living our life being engrossed in this fictional world.

So we shouldn't make it a bad habit. But just take it easy and have a good past time.

Now, let me enjoy it.. And you too.

Keep thinking!!

Standing up

We hear News about enforcement, harassment. In these cases, a person tries to trouble another person physically and emotionally. Many a times the culprit is an acquaintance.

People who see you daily or watch from far or maybe even speak to you. I just can't believe how anyone can think of hurting the person they like in some way. It is a state of mind of evil which finds pleasure in pain of other.

They may not be terrorists or killers but they sure do kill the life out of a human by not actually killing it.

Sometimes, I think. Why do anyone has to feel lifeless. Its just your body. Nobody can touch your soul or mind until you allow them too. But when someone takes away from you what's only yours, it can not stay away from touching your mind.

One rule should be universal.

No one has a right to trouble another life.

Freedom is what we live for. Freedom is what countries fought tirelessly to achieve. This freedom be it however, we may not make the utmost use of it, but when its mercilessly taken away from us, we cannot stand it.

If we are locked in an empty room we cannot stay in it for more than 45 minutes. Because we need to keep doing something. 

If someone is troubling you in any way.. Be it your friend or colleague or relative or anyone. Try talking it out. Explaining them how their behavior hurts you. If they still can't avoid it. Don't let yourself stick in that situation. Just lose contact with that person or complain if necessary. No one has the right to force you for anything. Be it your spouse, parent or child.

What you internally do not believe in or are against. Don't do it. Don't let them do it.

Don't be scared of losing them or being attacked. If we show courage and stand up for ourselves then only we can be actually FREE.

It is difficult.
Even hard.
But we should do what we feel is right.
Because at the end of the day we have to live with our own self too right?
We should be able to forgive ourselves and not live in regret.

If we live a life on constant force. It will just not be worth living..

There may be many reasons for not standing up like hurting the person, fear of losing, fear of being alone, responsibilities, or even social pressure but there is only 1 reason for doing the right thing and its you.
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Don't you love yourself that much that you will do something for yourself.

It's going to be difficult.
Even hard.
But it's for you. We should live for our own self.

Keep thinking!!