Showing posts with label desire. Show all posts
Showing posts with label desire. Show all posts

Monday, 13 November 2017

Heart and brain



Listen to your heart.

Do what's supposed to be done.

What do you really want?


Why should I message first?

How does it matter who messages in friendship?


Our mind fights within itself to decide upon such things of what we want and what we should do. What do we actually end up doing..?

Whether to go by what heart says or by the brain?


In most emotional relationships going by the heart works since we leave our ego aside and be ourselves.

But, in some circumstances, the heart is very selfish. It would empathise with the other person but still fail to accept and understand...

The brain tries to control it. Even tries to rationalize by reminding past experiences and lessons learnt. 

But, will we ever learn?

Actually, change?

Consider.

See someone else's point of view?


Heart v/s brain as we may call it or our mind versus our innermost desires. Who wins?

Who should win?

Whatever you choose, you have to face the consequences.

Either the wrath of hurting someone or the pain of your own aching heart.



What choice do you make?



Keep Thinking.




Monday, 9 October 2017

Gratitude

A feeling of 'Gratitude' 
The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.


When any other person, maybe a friend, a family member or an acquaintance does something kind, this feeling of Gratitude fills up our heart.



Living in times, where we need to be realists; when we have been betrayed, used or just looked upon as an opportunity to gain something. When somebody does a kind act, it overwhelms us. It may not be tangible.

 A kind word, keeping company, spending time or treating each other as family. 

Small gestures, few words, big heart and open arms.  <---^_^--->

As kids, we get all these things without even asking or craving for it. People are just waiting to make us smile and take us in their arms. We don't have to work for it or even earn it. Then, when we start growing up, we start taking these things for granted and don't value them as much. 

We have things to focus on. Have a goal in life. Work upon it.

We have to do so many things. Perform chores, be independent. 
We have to grow in our careers. We have to work on our talents. Yes, we have to be there for the family. Give them time. We do all these things.

Some things we do for others too. Help them.

Do we really do it for them?

We are selfish beings and there is no such thing as being selfless because, every act we do, even though, for others, is a selfish act, as it gives us some kind of happiness.

We are honest and good individuals not just for society but also because we have to live with ourselves. 

We make ourselves believe that we are doing a favor for somebody or helping them by being there but, that's not really the case.

It is our desire or wish too. 

We want to be there. 

We expect the same from them, too.

We expect. We get rejected at times, due to priorities and we get hurt. We understand. We empathize. We may fight, too. We may feel let down.

We stop expecting.

We grow.

We become strong to these situations.

We don't change ourselves or our behavior towards our people but we accept the fact that their priorities and attitudes are different. 

We accept that they may not want the same things as us and we find some median if possible, in some cases and let it go, for others.

As we become realists, still believing in the good and kind, somewhere.

We try to be kind as much possible to try to make a difference, even if it's little. So, that our faith stays in this ruthless competitive race everyone seems to be on.


Then, there is this moment. When someone else does a kind gesture.

It can be as small as someone pulling a door for you, when your hands are full or someone lending a ear to your rants. Someone, genuinely inquiring 'How have you been?' or someone, lending you a book you wanted to read. Some praising you behind your backs, or some planning a trip or party for you. Someone, appreciating to your efforts or someone criticizing you without making you defensive. Someone, letting you use something they gave you for a little while more or someone,trying to encourage your talent. Someone, consoling you when you are down or someone, giving a pat on the back when well deserved. Someone, accompanying you for a movie you wanted to watch or someone, helping you search something like a job, house, phone, car, accessory or a dress you want.

So many things, our people keep doing for us, every day.

They encourage us, feel proud about us, love us. Most of all, they treat us as family.

They give us the most important thing they have.



Time.

We feel humbled by the people we have in life.

They are family. And, even if we have so many, we want all. 

It hurts us, to purposefully leave or not talk to someone due to any reason.

Since, it takes two, we move on.

And, every time someone does a kind gesture, we are thankful.

Thankful for keeping our hopes up.

Thankful for their kindness.

Yet, we do not express it. We know, we should. But, we don't.




When we do,




we feel blessed.

We feel peace.


Keep Thinking!




Monday, 1 June 2015

Compliment you

What is it about compliments which we always seek for?

Compliments is what everyone likes and desires.

Why are we so desperate to hear them?

Is it just the words which we want to hear or we want to feel appreciated. Be it for looks, clothes or work we do we feel delighted when someone says even the slightest of a complimentary mark.

I think it's about the individuality in us individuals which wants to be noticed.

Many a times who it comes from doesn't matter but for what it does matters.

While some other times, we long to hear those sweet words from that one person and everyone else seems to be noticing it but him/her.

Be it a new hairstyle, new pair of jeans you bought or the new song you learned to play. We want someone to say its nice or looks superb.

What's the fun of shopping if no one knows its new!

Although each one of us smile the brightest when someone says a kind word but for others, even when we do,it may not be direct.
Gossiping behind your back and appreciating too behind your back.

Why don't we say upfront and make each other's day!!

Many a time we notice there is something different or that shirt really suits your friend but won't say out loud.

Why do we not be loud about the good things..?

Well in the movies its the lyricist who give words to those feelings. We cannot be poetic but still take some inspiration.

Expressing in just emojis is becoming the new trend.

Language is the best invention by man I believe.

Use of words really touches heart.
We feel them deeper and remember longer.
So go ahead add more words to your monosyllabic sentences. Express a little more and feel a lot more.
Keep thinking!!